[tmtranscripts] Ham on being grateful for our weaknesses
david.schlundt at vanderbilt.edu
Mon Aug 25 08:23:21 PDT 2003
Ham: Greetings, my children, I am Ham and I welcome each of you here
this evening. This evening, we shall discuss the slow and steady process
of understanding yourselves more completely. No human being is born or
presently lives in perfection. All individuals carry many different
obstacles to growth. Most of these obstacles are borne unaware. It takes
time for human beings to be unafraid of themselves in order to examine
their imperfections. But this very process is the engine of spiritual
growth. Without imperfection to overcome, human beings would not have
the foothold to propel themselves forward in growth.
Each human being has personal weakness which manifests perhaps in vanity
or pride, envy, things which have traditionally know as venial sins.
These are the handholds and footholds of growth. They are the rungs of
the ladder you climb. As you step closer toward God, you must step over
these personal weaknesses recognizing and overcoming them in some sense.
Life is designed in order that seeming obstacles can become footholds
once they are recognized and acknowledged. Each person must, over the
course of a lifetime, recognize these little weaknesses within
themselves and once recognized, once accepted, they are transformed into
the propellant for growth.
The Master always encouraged living life fully in full social contact,
full engagement with the arena of life for this is the only way
imperfection can be seen. His later followers who cloister themselves
and isolate from the world actually have great difficulty with growth
and can live an entire life like a struggling seedling in need of
nourishment and light, barely growing at all. And so their usefulness in
the world is very limited. Outer piety cannot take the place of the
rough and tumble existence life affords.
Many times people who live a sheltered existence become completely
dominated by weakness. Those who are shown their weaknesses through
failure and defeat learn to take hold and keep going, they learn to
change and grow. In the unforgiving arena of commercial life, any
weakness can easily create failure, and I am speaking of things like
pride, vanity, things that can project self-satisfaction but hide a lack
For each human being, there is not one Achilles heal, one overwhelming
tendency that bespeaks immaturity. No, for most human beings a
combination of things working in tandem creates those obstacles and also
opportunities. It is therefore incumbent upon the faithful to feel
overwhelming gratitude for these human failings. Without them, you would
have nothing to overcome, nothing to get a foot hold on.
It is exactly the little failings which can lead to great spiritual
success. Also I don't want you to magnify your supposed failings in your
own minds. These are small things. These are part of your path and the
way in which you overcome these things can lead to great moral victories
and set you upon greater paths than you have known before.
Be unafraid of who you are right now, this moment. Be unafraid to admit
your failings honestly and openly for this is all part of the way and a
very important part of the way. Be grateful for your imperfections, but
be ever more grateful for the Father's plan of perfecting.
Would you say that you are still engaged in this process of uncovering
your own perfections.
Yes, all ascending sons are likewise engaged. I would say that over time
these things grow more subtle and more insidious. As you know they are
even found among such highly created beings as Lucifer was.
But they weren't ascendent beings.
Ham: Yes, that's my point.
Q: It is hard to understand how we act like we are more when we feel we
are less. It seems like a high created being like that, pride is always
Ham: The sons of that order you must remember are created to function in
the realm of the ascending sons. Therefore, they are not created in
perfection as on the higher worlds, created directly from the Father of
from the eternal son.
Q: The point I have always puzzled me, I understand how people, pride in
people, overcompensation for low self esteem, but those other, do you
see what I am saying.
Ham: Well, yes, but pride has dimensions you have not explored.
Q: It is kind of pretending.
Ham: Yes, it is a kind of delusion. All human beings have their
delusions, it is safe to say that none are without them. When
personality and mind interact, there is then a personal aspect of mind
that is individual and within this realm are many different delusions
which are personal colorations of perception. Character is the
willingness to let go of delusion. Human beings are under a delusion in
general that the morontia and spiritual realms are peopled with perfect
beings. But this is untrue. Perfect beings are found in Havona and
scattered throughout the universes one finds them. They are perfect, but
they are also incomplete. They are limited in their experience. Only the
Father can be said to be complete, absolute, as well as perfect. His
creation must be fragmentary in some way. Even your indwelling adjusters
are sub-absolute. Though they partake of the Father's absolute nature,
they themselves are a fragment of him. Their experience gives them
greater and greater completion over time. And this is the Father's plan,
this is creation. This is existence. And this is the Father's great love
for his creation, that he would personally indwell the lowliest will
creatures and partake of their experience in time and space. No, the
universe is not perfect immediately upon leaving this world. You will
find imperfection all the way to paradise. But remember, the universes
are perfecting and the Father's command is "Be you perfect, even as I am
Q: Is it ever our business to discuss with someone else their
shortcomings as we perceive them and if it is, how do we go about that,
how do we do it if it is ever our business?
Ham: Yes, of course, it is fine to discuss spiritual struggles. Remember
the Master could teach through questions as well as providing answers.
Human beings are engaged and open when asked a question but often are
closed when receiving an answer.
Q: The awful ordeal of listening.
Ham: Yes. It is wise, as much as possible, to follow the Master's model
and to help others through the asking of questions before you dive in to
here's what I think your problem is mode which always causes the other
person to throw up barriers and not to listen. Take your time, don't be
in a hurry to change someone over night, and you will grow ever more
skillful in planting seeds of thought. Coming at someone with too much
harsh truth can also be a manifestation of vanity, I know and you don't
kind of thinking, and usually it falls on deaf ears. But, guiding
someone into self-realization can be a very rewarding experience, one
where both of you will learn a lot.
Q: Do you have any counsel for me this evening?
Ham: Certainly, my son. You are doing very well. Be at peace with
yourself. Give each day and each job before you your honest full effort.
Be careful not to bite off more than you can chew, in other words be
increasingly honest in your self-assessment. Pray for those around you
who need spiritual comfort and pray that they find spiritual comfort
rather than material comfort which masks and postpones the need and the
search for spiritual comfort. Remember that the human beings who search
in the material world for something that can only be found in the spirit
must eventually come to and end of that search, a crisis point. This is
an immutable law of the universe, it cannot be changed. Remember that
their own indwelling spirit is seeking that crisis point, that time of
turning when the person will turn to the spirit rather than the world.
Cooperate then with their adjuster and their angels rather than being
sucked into their material search which will only lead to increasing
pain before the crisis.
Q: May I ask for a message for Jim please?
Ham: Certainly. Be at ease my son, you are well. Remember that you can
serve only one master for some times the things of the world, the
material world, can be a seductive lure. Every time you have a conflict,
remember the simple words the Master repeatedly spoke, "It is my will
that your will be done". This is a psychological method of freeing
yourself from ego involvement and of allowing yourself to be lead and
releasing the burden which you keep picking back up, the burden of
figuring things out, being in charge of your life. It's OK sometimes not
to be "in charge" of your life. It's OK to drift with the Master's
leading. Be at ease my son, that is all.
Q: Do you have anything for Rebecca?
Ham: Yes, my daughter. Your way right now is turning, changing and you
are also feeling that drift, that not being in charge which is a help
for you right now in your desire to let go of control. You are finding a
way to move forward and a new and unique way to use your wisdom and
skills. Place your hand firmly in the Masters and he will show you all
that you need and give you guidance at each step. You are growing with
the inner strength you will need rather than the outer strength you have
heretofore relied upon. Abandon one for the other and your way is clear.
Ham: Yes my son, you too are going through some inner change relying
less and less on the old props and finding greater and greater inner
truth. This truth will blossom and your inner strength of character
continue to solidify around it. Your way is also clear as your reliance
on the Master's hand grows more complete. Trust in that relationship and
allow him to provide those things necessary for the journey. Be at
peace, you do well.
Q: Do you have a message for Joan?
Ham: Yes, of course. My daughter, you do very well. You are continuing
to grow and to find your way in the spirit. Remember that the Master's
spirit is always with you. He is an ever present friend and a willing
helper in your life. Be at ease, you will find the way is easier than
Q: Do you have a message for Norbert?
Ham: Certainly. My son, you do well. Have patience with yourself. Do not
try to move too far too fast. Do not be distressed as you go through the
inevitable difficulties of life for you will have everything you need at
every step of your journey. Have courage and confidence for all is well.
Q: Do you have a message for Charlie B?
Ham: Certainly. My son, take heed of this lesson. Do not be hard on
yourself or rather let go of your need for self-punishment and
criticism. You are a person with a complex mixture of these little sins
we talked about. Like all people, you will not be able to sort
everything out at once. Be careful to be a student as well as the
teacher. Become the child as well as the father.
Q: Do you have any feedback for me this week?
Ham: Yes, my son. Also take heed of this lesson. There are parts of your
personal nature which are quite fragile and have been protected for a
long time but which can use and honest airing and open examination. In
many ways you are stronger than you think you are weaker than you think
you are in other ways, just like all people. See how the strengths can
be weaknesses and weaknesses strengths. Be unafraid of yourself. Be
unafraid to be a human being with human failings and human problems.
Being a teacher has forced you to project a persona of confidence and
assurance. Examine this, how it is a help and a hindrance, in your
spiritual life. You do very well.
Is there anything further at this time? Very well then, until next week
my love and my prayers are with you each. Farewell.
David G. Schlundt, Ph.D.
Associate Professor of Psychology
Department of Psychology
301 Wilson Hall
Nashville, TN 37203
Fax: (615) 343-8449
Email: David.Schlundt at Vanderbilt.edu
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