[tmtranscripts] Ham on forgiveness

David Schlundt david.schlundt at vanderbilt.edu
Mon Feb 3 12:28:02 PST 2003


Ham: Greetings my children, I am Ham and I am
happy to be among you this evening. At this
time, we shall discuss once again the act of
forgiving. Forgiveness is not something which is
passive. It is not a concept which the
understanding brings peace. Rather, it is an
action, a conscious movement toward the
Father. Often times, unconsciously, human
beings turn away from the Father through the
inability to forgive.

Forgiveness is not an action of accepting
injustice. Forgiveness is rather the act of
putting aside the sin or injustice and loving the
sinner or perpetrator in spite of these actions.
The harboring of vengeance is destructive
whether this occurs in an individual or a society.
The seeking of retribution is never satisfied. It
is an slakeable thirst leading only to a kind of

As you grow in the spirit and seek to do the
Father’s will in all things, it is a requirement that
forgiveness be an active duty. The Master
talked that his followers should not only forgive
a slap on the cheek, but to turn actively the
other. To do something that goes beyond a
passive statement of forgiveness.

This next step, this next act, shows not only
forgiveness but acceptance and an honest
effort to change the situation. In fact, this
effort changes the relationship between the
oppressor and the oppressed. During the
second mile, the oppressed one becomes the

The active engaging of someone who has
wronged you gives you the spiritual power to
affect that person in ways that retribution never
can. When you forgive, that is the first step.
The second step is demonstrating your
forgiveness. When you demonstrate
forgiveness, you are reaching for spiritual power
and receiving it.

The master requires his followers to
demonstrate their ideals. He requires that you
live up to those highest thoughts and grandest
longings. It is not the easiest thing to do at
first, but actions breed habits and soon you will
find the habit of forgiveness and the
demonstration of forgiveness to be your
greatest joy.

People naturally respond to goodness and you
will find yourselves getting out of the old
patterns of recrimination. Forgive each other,
but go the second mile and demonstrate how
good it is to forgive. The little problems of life
will seem to be swept away.

Always it is best to reach for the highest thing
in your natures. It is habit to reach for the
lower and these habits must be changed. It is
automatic to be put out or angry or irritated by
the behavior of someone. But this is not the
Father’s way. The Father calls out what is best
within your hearts – Forgiveness, laughter,
love, self-acceptance, accepting other, and love,
most of all love.

Where there is anger or hurt so often
automatically putting up the barriers. But the
Master said, take down those barriers instead,
walk cheerfully the second mile, forgive and
demonstrate your forgiveness. It does not
require all that much to forgive and to do
something that demonstrates your forgiveness.
But it does take a mighty force of will to check
your old reaction patterns and to change its

In this way, my children, all your relationships
will improve and you will free yourselves of old
patterns of thought, behavior, which lead to
sorrow. So have no thought about what you
should have received from this or that person.
Do not seek to require them to do anything.
Seek only to find those little moments of
forgiveness. Check your own reaction and do
some little thing that breaks the cycle, the

So often, in close relationships, patterns arise
that recur almost on a daily basis. If you just
wouldn’t do such and such, if she would just
not do this or that, why do you have to do this
or that? And it’s in these little things that
relationships can be gradually broken down.
When you forgive the little things and
demonstrate your acceptance, you go a long
way toward recapturing love, respect, and joy.
As your children get older, it’s important to
break those patterns as well and to
demonstrate your confidence and acceptance of
them just as they are whether or not they
conform to your good advice.

Every human being longs for acceptance and
longs for love and forgiveness is the mechanism
with which you can demonstrate loving
acceptance. Give to each other freely the gifts
of the spirit. Those gifts are not to be hoarded
or held in trust. They are not to be portioned
out or divided up. The gifts of the spirit have
freely been given and you must demonstrate
your acceptance of them by your giving. Do you
accept the Father’s forgiveness? Then you must
forgive freely and fully. Do you accept the
Father’s love? Then you must love completely
without reservation.

Let peace be upon you as you discover the ever
greater gifts the Father bestows upon you
daily. Are there any questions at this time?

Q: Ham may I have a personal message please?

Ham: Certainly, my daughter. You do very well.
You are finding a great deal of personal freedom
and happiness. Remember that you are a
liberated daughter of God, that the Father’s
love is so strong as to bring you safely through
anything and everything without fear. The
decisions before you are to be made in time. Do
not rush into any decision right now. For things
have a way of working themselves towards a
solution, especially if we do not press to hard.

Q: May I have a personal message please?

Ham: Yes my son, you do very well. You have
come far over these last few years. Do not fear
the future for you are doing just what you
should be. It takes putting one foot before the
other to walk any distance. Often your
impatience gets you in trouble. Find patience
and a steadiness to life, a calmness, as you
move forth. And continue to pray, thy will be
done. In this way you will find true self
acceptance and the beginnings of a really deep
self-respect. So, don’t be in a hurry. The way
will be shown.

Q: Ham do you have anything for me?

Ham: Certainly my daughter, you do well. You
have also come very far relatively quickly. But
you also are finding the benefits from slowing
down a little and finding your own rhythm and
listening to it. So often your lives are overly
structured and there must be some time for
simply being without worrying about what isn’t
being done. But, you also are doing very well
and are finding time for yourself more and
more. Don’t be afraid of alone time with God.
Let him be beside you and may you be
increasingly aware of his presence at all times.
Again I say, knock and it shall be opened, seek
and you will find. Be at peace my daughter, you
do very well.

Q: Do you have anything for Rebecca?

Ham: Certainly. Daughter, you do well. Find
peace and comfort even as you strive and
worry. Take those feelings of guilt and put them
aside for they do not serve you. Accept the
Fathers good gifts. Be unafraid to take them.

Q: Jarad?

Ham: Certainly. My son, you do very well. You
have grown tremendously and you continue to
bear fruits of the spirit in your daily life. Be
unafraid of walking into this new phase in your
life. Do not worry about trying to change. Think
rather about becoming more and more who you
are. Be at peace with yourself.

Q: Ham Neiley wants to know if you have any
counsel for him?

Ham: Yes, certainly. My son you have often
impulses for action in different directions and
the same time and this gives you a difficult way
to feel certain about yourself and your feelings.
As a child, you were very sensitive to the
different ways your parents were pulling you
and these feelings have remained to a large
extent. Do not worry so much about who you
are. Think instead of about where you are
going, who you want to be. The secret to life is
understanding that where you are in is not so
important as where you are going and who you
are is not so important as who you are
becoming. Set your sights high in both these
areas and much of the troubles of the moment
will vanish.

Q: Marije would like you to comment on the
health of her mother and father.

Ham: My dear you do well. You have much
before you and you must tackle the future
without fear or worry. Your parents are both
doing quite well. Health problems will come and
go during this stage in life. It is not something
you should worry about. Think rather about
your own health and well being at this time.
Have courage as you go forward with this great
adventure and be at peace my dear, you do

Q: Rebecca received an e-mail from Duane Faw
which is a message from a celestial named Virgil.
There was a discussion of a meeting of
celestials at which momentous happenings were
to be discussed and big decisions affecting the
future of the planet were to be made. Can you
clarify or comment on this?

Ham: Certainly. The planetary government
periodically hosts meetings to discuss progress
of your world. This could be referring to one of
those meetings. Be assured that the overall
planetary direction and governance is steady
and secure. There is always room for discussion
and for minor changes to be made. But the
overall plan of action was decided upon many
hundred years ago and is ably put into place by
the wise stewardship of Machiventa Melchizedek
who acts in Michael’s stead as planetary prince.
All decisions are made jointly between Michael
and Machiventa. And these plans and decisions
are in accordance with the will of the Universal
Father. So, do not feel for a moment that there
is some uncertainty concerning any major
direction or decision. There is not. Rest assured
that your world is progressing as it should
despite the seeming set backs and suffering in
certain parts of the world. I hope this is helping
the questioner.

Q: Yes, I would like a personal message please
Ham it has been so very long.

Ham: Yes, certainly my daughter. You have very
much to be thankful for this day. You have a
great tendency to always fear the worst but the
worst seldom arrives. Things are usually quite
different. Be honest, of course, about your
fears, but don’t dwell upon them. Move on. Do
the things which can be done that day and then
let go of any extra anxiety which tends to hover
and remain quickly at arms length able to be
grabbed up and used any second. Don’t worry
my daughter. You have much to do in this life,
much to be a part of, much to contribute. The
way will open that allows all these things and
your spiritual growth will be the key that
unlocks everything else. Some times it is best
not to over analyze and better just to
experience. Have peace and comfort as you
move forward. Remember that the Master’s
spirit is ever at your side. His ear is open. Talk
to him and find comfort there.

Q: Do you have a personal message for Charlie

Ham: Yes, my son, you also do very well. The
way will open for you. Do not worry or be
concerned about your direction right now. Let
the Father take the helm and show you the way
forward. You have grown much in your ability to
release control to the Father’s great hand.
Don’t forget the lessons of your recent past.
Let go and the way will open.

Q: Do you have any feedback for me this week

Ham: Yes, of course. My son, you do very well.
You also are a person who take comfort in
controlling your environment and there are
times when this is appropriate and times when
it is best to let go and to trust. And know there
are no set rules, these things are always
overlapping. It is best to find comfort in the
releasing of control and in this your spiritual
power will be increased. Be at ease with
surrender. Most of life is out of our hands. We
just don’t like to acknowledge it.

Very well my children, is there anything further?
Very well, as always, my prayers and my love go
with each one of you. Be at peace as you fight
the little battles of life and the great battles of
self. Have comfort in the Master’s presence and
be mindful of him.

David G. Schlundt, Ph.D.
Associate Professor of Psychology
Department of Psychology
Vanderbilt University
301 Wilson Hall
Nashville, TN 37203

Phone: (615)322-7800
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Email: David.Schlundt at Vanderbilt.edu
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