8/11/2002

Ham: Greetings, children, I am Ham and I am happy that
you are here this evening. This evening let us discuss
the understanding which comes through quiet
thoughtfulness, the understanding which comes when
judgment is suspended, the wisdom which grows when
the ego is quieted.

All people go through times when you are very busy,
when your attention is focused on something every
second it seems. These are difficult times for growth.
Spiritual development comes with understanding the
bigger picture. The ability to step back and understand
a situation more completely helps to lend spiritual
levers.

The work and worry of the moment will be forgotten in
eternity. From the viewpoint of the mansion worlds, what
will your life look like? All of you are building toward
your life’s careers. You are all working diligently to make
something worthwhile with your lives. So, remember to
take the longer view as often as you can. Think about
how what you are doing is building character, how the
people you deal with are affected by your presence.
Think about how the whole of your life is moving.

The Father wishes for all of you to have happy,
productive lives. But be careful not to leave him out in
your work and worry and daily toil. Always does he
stand ready to give you and added dimension to your
thoughts. As he works in your mind, he endeavors to
spiritualize your thinking so that the everyday trouble
itself takes on a spiritual meaning and dimension.

All people want to be loved. Everyone wants the
reassurance that only love can give. When the Master
said to Peter, "feed my sheep" he very much meant for
him to feed words of love to his hungry children.
Everyone wants to be valued. They want to be valued
by their peers. That is something the Master gave
constantly and freely. He valued every human being he
came in contact with. Never did he put anyone down or
belittle their efforts. Always was he encouraging and
helpful in his comments. He knew how little it takes to
make someone happy. He knew how much people
needed his acceptance, how much they needed him to
value them. My children, that is true every where. You
are all people that others look up to. So be free with
your praise and let others know that you value them.

It takes very little to wound someone. Most people are
very sensitive to little slights, even as you are and little
do you realize how easily you can wound someone
quite deeply without really thinking. So please think well
on your comments for you all have responsibility for
others.

The master said time and again, "love one another".
Love implies acceptance. When you love someone, you
accept who they are suspending judgment, letting go of
criticism, and most importantly when you love another
you love some part of yourself as well. When you
criticize another, you are criticizing yourself.

All people need love and you yourselves need it
especially for love will be what sustains you. Let go of
petty criticisms. Be large enough to allow love in to all
sides of your hearts. Let go of your pain and do not use
it against others. Release your anxieties and do not
burden others with your fears.

Embrace the Father fully and completely without
reservation, without hiding anything for this is salvation.
This is being reborn. Let the Father’s love roll over you
like an ocean. Let is wash away all your pain and fear
and doubt. You are just another swimmer with no extra
burden, no deformity which will not be cleansed and
straightened by the Father’s purifying love.

Accept your status as children of the universal Father.
Take not the role of teacher of seer or prophet. Always
be child/student open to learning, open to changing.
Realize that you have nothing to give the Father’s
children but that which the Father gives you and that
great gift is love. Accept it for yourselves and you will be
able to give it to others. Are there any questions at this
time?

Q:

















Q: Do you have a personal message for Norbert?

Ham: Mark and I are getting married soon and we have
been thinking about how it will change our lives and
how it will be the same and how it will be different. We
have been pondering long term relationships. Any
advice you can give us will be wonderful.

Ham: Certainly my children. When you make this
solemn vow, your lives will change, yes. And yet, you
two have come so far together already that little will
change also. Being in the married state is a source of
great joy and happiness. The building of a life together
with all its ups and downs, with all the pain of growth
and the struggle of living is a great adventure and a
wonderful endeavor. Always leave room for growth.
Grow together, allow each other their own freedom to
change and to expand in life and you will find a long and
wonderful romance. Allow the security of marriage to
give you a basis for increasing your vulnerability with
each other. Let your love for each other deepen and
grow strong in the firm rooted nature of the married
state. As close as you are now, know that you will
become closer over the years and time will deepen and
strengthen this relationship which is your sanctuary.
Support each other and always pull together as you
move forward in life. Seek the best for the other person.
Seek their happiness and you will find happiness
yourself. You children are meant to be together. Your
life together will be blessed with much happiness. Have
peace in your hearts as you go forth in life. Lean upon
each other. Give each other strength and face the world
together in all that you do. I would be honored to attend
you wedding ceremony. Be assured I will be there.

Q: Ham I would like a personal message. It has been a
while since I have been able to come.

Ham: Certainly, my son. You are doing very well. You
are handling greater and greater pressure with greater
ease as time goes by. Always consider your balance.
You are a person who needs balance in routine, in
food/healthy eating, regular stillness, all these things
contribute. When you are out of balance you become
stressed and quite easily ill so balance is very
important. For the most part, your life is well ordered
and balanced and this is very important to maintain.
Your emotional balance is greatly enhanced through
your relationship with Katie. Just as you are a source of
balance for her, so she is a source of balance for you.
Be at ease as you make these plans for your life
together. The way is clear and you are doing very well.

Q: Ham do you have anything for Rebecca?

Ham: Yes, my daughter, you are doing well. You are a
person who feels comfortable in working and when
tasks are completed then feels able to relax. It is well
and good to find a balance in life which allows for work
and for relaxation and exercise. Be at ease for you do
well. Find ways to let go of the work and worry and to
relax more often. Be careful not to push yourself too
hard for the time is coming when that will be very easy
to do. Practice stillness every day, morning and
evening. This will help you.

Q: Jarad?

Ham: Certainly my son, you do well. You are a person
who likes to take time off and relax regardless of what is
to be done.

Q: Are you saying I am lazy Ham?

Ham: Not lazy so much as rebellious. Yes, you are still
very much the boy playing hooky and that time is more
enjoyable to you for the fact of shirking responsibility.
You must find a little more discipline, a greater
willingness to take responsibility when necessary.
Growing in the spirit means growing to adulthood and
adult responsibility comes with that stature. Embrace
that growth and direction.



Ham: Do you see how you make decisions to play the
child rather than being the adult in situations?

Q: I don’t know if I see that or not. I guess I do, I usually
am inditing myself for the same charges which are you
referring to me.

Q: Why is that?

Q: That I am inditing myself for the same things you are
warning me about.

Ham: Yes.

Q: It’s the same thing about a guy who is
wholeheartedly dedicated to doing the Father’s will be
really isn’t. Something like that.

Ham: That is a serious statement to make. Explain
further.

Q: Well I just still haven’t dedicated myself to doing the
most I can and serving. I haven’t been able to decrease
my preoccupation with my own comfort and am always
involved in self-centered crap, all the things that Ian has
brought to my attention about wanting praise and doing
the least I can. I have always wanted to do the Father’s
will I don’t seem to have had much luck with it. So many
years of being dishonest as an alcoholic makes it
difficult now for me to have enough faith and courage to
do my best. That is what I am always trying to come up
with.

Ham: So rather than face your responsibilities you want
to run away from them?

Q: I seem to do that on some level. I see myself making
a lot of, my life is directly from the unconscious portion
of my mind, I seem to be conforming to some scenario
that I am not fully aware of in my daily life. I haven’t had
much luck with letting go fo the past. I am not really that
agile at forgiving. But I do of course want to do the
Father’s will. It was indicated to me that I have made the
supreme choice about that. I get down on me about stuff
and maybe that is the reverse of self-centeredness. I
don’t know.

Ham: Yes my son, you have spoken some difficult
truths. You cannot be dedicated to the Father’s will and
dedicated to your own will at the same time. The two
may diverge. Dedication to the Father’s will requires a
gradual relinquishing of your own selfish desires and
this is a process, one which everyone must go through.
The Father’s will is uncompromising. You can’t make a
deal about having your way this time. The Father
requires all or nothing. Understand that and you will find
peace within yourself.

Q: Do you have a personal message for Carol?

Ham: Certainly, my daughter, embrace the fullness of
the Father’s love and in that love find complete
forgiveness and complete acceptance. Be careful with
those around you for they too are fragile creatures
needing your love.

Q: Do you have a personal message for Jim?

Ham: Yes. My son, you do well. You have come very far
but still have very far to go. Like Jarad, you want
everything to be easy and to work itself out quickly. You
have little patience with long and involved projects. But
life is about learning. Life is about growing into greater
responsibilities. So, be at peace with yourself and have
patience with yourself. Above all, have patience with
others surrounding you for they very much need your
understanding and support.

Q: Do you have a personal message for Charlie B?

Ham: Yes, my son, think well on these messages for
you also can become impatient and even intolerant of
others at times. Watch your thinking for shades of
intolerance and be forgiving of others as you would wish
to be forgiven. You do well my son, be at peace.

Q; Do you have a message for Norbert?

Ham: Certainly. My friend, you do well. Remember that
growth very much consists in finding new sides of
yourself so to speak. Allow yourself to blossom and
grow. Don’t put arbitrary limits on who you are. Be open
to be yourself. You are doing well.

Q: Do you have any feedback for me this week?

Ham: Certainly. My son, you have much to give. Realize
that you hold great responsibility with this. Be forgiving
as you would wish to be forgiven. Be loving, as you
would wish to be loved and be understanding as you
would wish to be understood. You do very well. Go in
peace.

Is there anything further? Very well then, as always my
prayers and my love are with you each. Until next week
farewell.